Marriage & Family Articles

The List – Insist on Doing Things As Your Family Did

September 2, 2021

My wife and I had only been married for six months, and it was Christmas eve. We had finished dinner, and I was preparing to watch some Christmas specials when it happened. She asked me a question that jarred me. It came out of nowhere. I hadn’t expected it. I couldn’t even believe she was … Read more

The List – Wait for Your Spouse to Go First

August 19, 2021

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records and watching marriage fail. “You go first.” “No, you go first!” “Why should I be the one to go … Read more

The List – Let Anger Have It’s Way

August 12, 2021

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records and watching marriage fail. Anger can be caustic to marriage at best and dismantling to marriage at worst. IS … Read more

The List – Don’t Deal With Your Past Trauma

July 1, 2021

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The List refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records. According to an article posted on unicef.org/ukraine in 2020, land mines were the leading cause of conflict-related child casualties … Read more

The List – Put Your Kids Ahead of Your Spouse

June 23, 2021

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records. When I have a couple in my office whose marriage is not doing well, I always ask them when … Read more

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The List – Stop Spending Time Together

June 17, 2021

Some time ago, I spent a few days thinning out over 20 years of counseling files. As I went through each individual file, it was like a trip down memory lane. With each file, I could see their faces and remember their issues. While doing this, I was struck by how many married couples I … Read more

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How to be Happy with a Less-Than-Perfect Marriage

June 10, 2021

MY MISTAKE When I served as a minister to single adults, I’m afraid I made a serious mistake. No, I didn’t have an illicit relationship with someone or misappropriate funds. And I didn’t teach some sort of religious heresy. What I did was teach single adults how to build good relationships by understanding their past […]

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Being Married is Like Playing Poker

June 3, 2021

I’M NOT A GAMBLER I’m not much of a gambler. Never have been. It’s not that I have some moral stance against gambling. I’ve just never felt the need to unnecessarily risk money I already have on the slight possibility I might win more. But, one day I found myself watching a professional poker tournament […]

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Suddenly Single – How You Can Survive the “Economic Downturn

May 27, 2021

When I was Suddenly Single, it was like a grenade had gone off. You’re disoriented, with good reason. And whether you realize it or not, you’re going through some huge, emotional upheaval. And that’s why I’m offering these tips on what to do about your finances when you’re trying to hold on. Try these for […]

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Some Things About Growing Old Together…

May 27, 2021

THE ROMANTIC When people (particularly young people) are getting married, they post things on social media like… “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.” “You will always be my forever friend.” “I look forward to growing old with you.” And I’ll admit that in weddings I officiate, I often challenge […]

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How to Love Two Spouses

May 20, 2021

No, this post is not about polygamy or sister wives. It’s just that sometimes it can feel like you’re married to two spouses at the same time; the one you fell in love with, and the one you didn’t. Let me explain by using a story from the ancient book of Genesis… A STORY Starting […]

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Signs of Life

May 13, 2021

I was talking to a friend who is somewhat particular about his yard, and he told me there are two parts of his yard that are his favorite spots. I thought to myself, “These must be particularly lush and manicured parts of his yard to be his favorite. But actually, his two favorite spots in […]

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4 Simple Things That Will Improve Sex in Marriage

May 6, 2021

Maybe you’re in one of those rare marriages where sex is not a problem. Maybe you both agree on the when, where, and how of sex. If so, count yourself as fortunate. But most married couples wrestle with sex. (Pun intended!) WHY IS SEX SUCH A PROBLEM IN MARRIAGE? You’d think that something as fundamental […]

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Where is Your Home…Really?

April 29, 2021

I was driving to work one morning in a bit of a funk. It had been a long and taxing week and I was just feeling a little…blah! I had my favorites playlist on shuffle when a song pulled me out of my fog. Actually, it was the following line that captured my attention… “This […]

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Not Another Marriage List!

April 22, 2021

We’ve all seen them. They’re in the magazines that line the grocery store check-out aisles. They’re scattered throughout our social media feeds. They are written by academics, psychologists, and freelance writers. And they have titles that dare us to see how we measure up. What are they? They are those lists of characteristics that supposedly […]

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